i got this story from Facebook.. :')

Married or not you should read this...


“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

i know..

hellou yellou..
1am . no one at office (except my boss's wife) . cozy atmosphere in my office . its just like laying on your bed and ready to close your eyes. i bet my boss's wife already slept at her room. 
so, i decided to write down a blog post.
february will ending up soon. on 26th, my bestfriend, Dinda will going abroad for short course to South Korea. ohmy, two (really madly deeply) besties just left me alone in this country! (okay, it's sounds too dramatic). but, i thank GOD from March till June, i will be so hectic for some project, learn a lot of things and meet up a lot of people. and they will come home on July. 
we've been prepared anything : sign up for SKYPE, iMssge, FaceTime, etc to make sure that we still can keep in touch. 
sure, we will miss each other.. :')
do you believe with the impressions at the first sight? i did! from the first conversation, i feel like i know these person personality. and i proved it all the time that im never miss anything that i felt about. and someone that who always be told what i feel is my boyfriend. He proved my word. Well, sometime this "sense" is very helpful, but sometimes I just dont wanna get any closer with the people I've met. it is deeply troubling. But fortunately, now, i can take time to know everyone more thoroughly. Give them time to show their "original version". Then decide to be more closer, stop on the point or just step back. And i've found myself learned so many things from this methods. And i do believe that people may change. To better or worst.
I wanna make friend with a lot of peoples. Being a good friend to anyone i've come across. Being part of their life. Even they just know my name.

Friend : who doesn't need this "character"? it's not just a name, but it should be alive. - JenniferWillson

You must be friends with anyone, but you can choose which one can be trusted. Don't let environment affecting you,but you are creating the environment. Learn from what was good and useful. Be blessed :)

10.02.2012 :D

meet up my high school friends : Dinda, Rico, Niko, Pele, Melvin, Kent and Dinda's Husband (LOL) Made. have twice dinner (PHD and Sate Sambas) till midnight. i feel so glad and i wish to see youagain guys.. :) GBUs..

                                           

 

                                             

when GOD made you :')

It's always been a mystery to me

How two hearts can come together

And love can last forever

But now that I have found you, I believe

That a miracle has come

When God sends the perfect one

I promise that wherever you may go

Wherever life may lead you

With all my heart I'll be there too

From this moment on I want you to know

I'll let nothing come between us

I'll love what ever you love

Now gone are all my questions about why

And I've never been so sure of anything in my life

I wonder what God was thinking

When He created you

I wonder if He knew everything I would need

Because He made all my dreams come true

When God made you

He must have been thinking about me

He made the sun He made the moon

to harmonise in perfect tune

One can't move without the other

They just have to be together

And that is why I know it's true

You're for me and I'm for you

Cause my world just can't be right

Without you in my life...

happy friendship day ☺♥☺♥☺

ola ♥ howdie? :)
im so happy (everyday) especially today..
friendship day? is that international celebration..? not.not
hari ini aku dan 2 orang sahabatku merayakan hari persahabatan kami.. :)
Dinda..

Julie..

"If you're alone, I'll be your shadow.  If you want to cry, I'll be your shoulder.  If you want a hug, I'll be your pillow.  If you need to be happy, I'll be your smile.  But anytime you need a friend, I'll just be me."
Well, kalau mau diomongin apa aja uda kami alami dan lewatin mungkin satu pabrik kertas gak sanggup buat menuliskannya :p
Mungkin dalam hidup yang cuma satu kali ini aku gak terlahir untuk punya saudara kandung, yang selalu serumah, tapi aku tau apa yang sudah Tuhan tentukan buat aku, itu jauhhh lebih indah daripada apa yang menjadi keinginan hati manusia.. 
"Life without friend is like death without witness"
Sekarang Non lagi kerja di China, hari ini kita gak bisa berkumpul seperti tahun-tahun sebelumnya..aku & dinda cuma bisa doain kamu dari sini..semoga apa yang menjadi bagian yang Tuhan tetapkan buat kamu, kamu menjadi luar biasa didalamnya..dan selalu bersandar sama Tuhan, karena Tuhan sajalah yang mampu menyempurnakan segala pekerjaan tangan kita. :)
5bln lagi kamu pulang kok.. "YEAY!!"  can't wait to see you soon dear.
Dan mungkin sampai Agustus kita baru bisa berkumpul lagi..Dinda baik2 yaaa di Korea.. :') Semoga kita bisa berkumpul lagi di hari ulangtahunku :) dan rencana2 kita harus segera dilaksanakan.. :))
"Good friends are like stars, you don't always see them, but you know they're always there" 
Non.. Din.. aku beruntung sekali punya sahabat seperti kalian.. Kalian tau, aku selalu percaya "Orang belajar banyak hal di sekolah, tapi sejujurnya mereka tidak belajar apapun jika mereka belum memiliki sahabat" . Dan aku belajar banyak hal dari kalian..terutama dalam menjadi diriku apa adanya :') makasih neng ku sayanggg..
Dan 8tahun sudah berlalu..namun hal-hal ini tak akan pernah terlupakan..jika suatu hari aku lupa ingatan, aku tau akan mengingat kalian pertama kali :')
Dan selamanya kalian tetap sahabatku..

"as long as we're together" - dj² -

tukar kado pas Natalan :)

photobox entah kesekian JUTA kali.. :D

i (see) you again..

hellouu yellouu..

back again to office, sitting on my desk, facing my monitor (ohh yeah, not mine, actually belong to my boss, LoL). struggling through week after week (hmmm..pardon me, i should not be used "struggling", more precisely "fullfilling duty") lalalala~ enjoy my day over here, learned many things, pleasant working atmosphere, a good boss, and "WOWWW" salary. :)))

a week went by so fast, and its already Saturday (yeah i know, dont laugh at me, its Monday when i wrote this blog). i have a lunner (lunch and dinner) with WinelliCendana (complete pictures on her blog) at PizzaHut :9 (nyummm..). its been a long time since we're plan to meet up. horrible exam (for her) and exhausting job (for me) really takes up our time. And im so happy to meet and get acquainted with her classmates.. Feli (pishau, hahahah), Jess, Ella, Vincent and not-speaking one, Kevin :D have a great time, enjoy your holiday and i wish to see you again, guys.. :)

me : the shortest, eldest, smallest.. :p

♥♥♥

welcome home grandpa... ♥

hellouu there! howdie? :)
firstly, i wanna thank God for taking care my slimmie grandpa passed the post-surgery moment. Picking up grandpa yesterday and have a chat with him before sleep. 72yo, so slimmie, toothless (hahaha :p) and never want to bother anybody. 
i remember that night, a day after surgery, me, mom & dad visiting him at ICU. watching all the hose pierced on his head, lying weak, pale face. i just can pray inside my heart "Dad, i want You to share all his pain to me. Please don't let him go before i could be his happy". My head just flashed back to the day when i was in kindergarten... he always picking me up after school, bought me a lot of sweets, seaweed (so to this day i really like seaweed) and old-fashioned toy (a paper girl with so many selection dress which also made of paper). Huks.. could only hold back tears. :'(. And that's for the first time i saw my dad kissing on my grandpa forehead with teary eyes. 
now..all should be hand over to GOD. My BIG PAPA in heaven. HIS love is perfect and never too late.. DAD know all and decisively.


this some picture of my slimmie grandpa.. :*

                                 

What children need most are the essentials that 
grandparents provide in abundance.
They give unconditional love, kindness, patience, humor, comfort, 
lessons in life.
And, most importantly, cookies.
~Rudolph Giuliani

jenniferwillson-bellevie :)

well, this is my first blog. actually i love to write. i write notes, some novel (which is unpublished :p) and decide to write something when ima have nothing to do and wanna share something with..


why belle vie? be honest, you read it "believe" rite? that my trick, make some optical illusions, LoL. JK. but it is also one thing that i want you to. belle vie means "beautiful life" in French. i wanna go to France someday and have a kiss at Eiffel *hahaha, don't so serious*. oh yeah! i think my life was wonderful. having a parents like who they are today, bestfriend all around, enjoy good food, good stuff and have a lot of experience with my awesome God everyday. and i wish to share all of this with you.. :)


February's came so fast on 2012. i feel just passed new year's eve, watching fireworks with my family and have a midnight walk with my parents on 12. 
oh yeahhh.. time really flies only with the blink of an eye.


February means that "Valentine day's" will soon arrives. it's just a general days for me. its not because I'm on LDR, but me&partner not such a romantic couples. habitually, we are just hang out, going to have some fave food. we love food, but wish to stay slim :p


okei, i wish you enjoy my blog and always smileee :)