reposting :)

Hellouu Yellouu.. i've been post out this "draft" on Facebook about a year ago.. and after re-read this draft, i think that i should post it again on my blog.. I wish the post will be bless for you.. happy reading guys.. :)

Hellooooo.... sebelumnya gw mau ucapin Happy New Year.. Semoga apa yang sudah menjadi target kita selama tahun 2011 ini boleh tercapai dengan pimpinan Tuhan..

Well, uda lama gw ga nulis notes, kali ini di tahun yang baru ini gw pengen sharing dengan kalian mengenai firman Tuhan dimana “sharing” ini pasti pernah kita semua alami dalam hidup sampai tahun 2011 ini.

Tema dari Firman Tuhan ini adalah BUAH SEPERTI APA YANG ADA PADAMU?

Setiap manusia sama seperti sebatang pohon yang bertumbuh dalam hidupnya. Namun ada yang berbuah, ada juga yang tidak berbuah. Dalam Lukas 6:43-45, Tuhan Yesus menceritakan tentang pohon dan buahnya.. “Karena tidak ada pohon yang baik yang menghasilkan buah yang tidak baik, dan juga tidak ada pohon yang tidak baik yang menghasilkan buah yang baik. Sebab setiap pohon dikenal dari buahnya. Karena dari semak duri orang tidak memetik buah ara dan dari duri-duri tidak memetik buah anggur. Orang yang baik mengeluarkan barang yang baik dari perbendaharaan hatinya dan orang yang jahat mengeluarkan barang yang jahat dari perbendaharaan yang jahat. Karena yang diucapkan mulutnya, meluap dari hatinya”.

Dari Ayat diatas, Tuhan Yesus ingin menjelaskan bahwa setiap manusia tergantung dari hatinya dan sepandai apapun orang tersebut menutupi dirinya agar terlihat baik didepan orang-orang, pasti akan kelihatan juga. Buah yang baik adalah kebaikan dalam wujud nyata yang manusia timbulkan baik dari pikiran, sikap dan ucapannya. Semua hal yang manusia lakukan itu adalah apa yang timbul dari hatinya.

Dalam Yohanes 15:1-8, Tuhan menunjukkan kasihnya kepada kita. Ia tidak membiarkan kita tumbuh sendiri sebagai pohon-pohon, namun Dia berkata “Akulah pokok anggur yang benar dan Bapa-kulah pengusahanya......Tinggallah di dalam Aku dan Aku dalam kamu”. Tuhan tidak membiarkan kita tumbuh sendiri, namun jika kita ingin berbuah kita harus mau Tuhan pupuk, Tuhan sirami dan Tuhan letakkan dibawah terik matahari. Tetapi ada juga manusia yang mau mengambil aman dalam hidupnya, yaitu mereka yang tidak berbuat jahat, tidak korupsi, tidak membunuh, namun dalam hidup mereka, mereka tidak melakukan apa-apa untuk kemuliaan nama Tuhan. (baca Lukas 13:6-9)

Tuhan Yesus sudah memberikan kita masing-masing talenta. Karena pohon mangga tidak mungkin menumbuhkan buah papaya atau pohon apel menumbuhkan buah semangka. Terkadang dalam hidup ini kita memaksakan diri untuk menghasilkan ini dan menghasilkan itu. Kita berpikir alangkah bagusnya jika kita bisa berangkat ke Afrika dan menolong mereka yang ada di sana, namun setiap dari kita sudah Tuhan tentukan porsinya masing-masing. Tuhan tidak menempatkan kita di tengah belantara Afrika untuk menyelematkan jiwa-jiwa yang sama sekali belum mengenal keselamatan, namun Tuhan memberikan kita waktu dan kesempatan(dalam Lukas 13:8-9, Tuhan member kesempatan kepada kita) untuk berdoa syafaat bagi mereka yang ada disana dan bagi pekerja misi yang Tuhan tuntun mereka untuk ada di sana. Segala materi yang sudah Tuhan limpahkan untuk kita bisa juga menjadi saluran berkat untuk orang-orang yang ada di sekitar kita. Apapun yang kita lakukan, Tuhan tidak pernah menghitung apakah itu besar atau itu kecil karena “orang yang beribadah menentukan korban yang dipersembahkan, namun korban tidak menggambarkan orang yang beribah” ini artinya Tuhan melihat hatimu dan kesungguhanmu.

Teman, mari kita awali, jalani dan akhiri tahun 2011 ini bukan hanya dengan target yang bersifat untuk pribadi kita saja. Karena sesungguhnya pikiran, sikap dan ucapan kita dapat mengubahkan banyak hal dalam dunia ini. Pergunakanlah anugrah kehidupan yang sudah Tuhan berikan untuk kita karena tidak ada seorangpun yang tahu kapan tiba saatnya pemilik kebun datang pada kita untuk memetik buah kita atau memotong pohonnya karena kita tidak berbuah yang baik atau bahkan tidak menghasilkan apa-apa. Apa yang perlu kita khawatirkan dalam berbuah asal kita mau Tuhan yang menjadi pokok anggur kita. Tuhan mampu menolong kita sampai tahun 2011 ini, jadi untuk apa kita khawatir akan hidup yang hanya tinggal 50, 40, 30, 20 bahkan 10 tahun lagi. Mari kita berbuah yang manis dan menyenangkan bagi Tuhan.

Immanuel !!!

i got this story from Facebook.. :')

Married or not you should read this...


“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.